I see a lot of people unwilling to rp with me because my muse is trans, and because of that I feel nobody in the rp community ever will. So, yeah, reblog if you would rp with trans muses (nonbinary muses included).
do you ever see someone who is just so fucking good at roleplaying & amazing but you’re scared to approach them even though they probably would love to rp with you but you just can’t muster up enough strength to talk to them so you just sit there looking at their blog like
I actually see a lot of new RPers recently, in this community and others, and I love all of you. Still, sometimes, I see a lot of y’all making the same mistakes I did. And since I’ve been at this shit for an embarrassingly long time (15 years and counting), I thought it might be helpful to throw together a few tips I learned over the years.
A shortened version of this rather long post can be found at the bottom, as well.
✿; The best advice I can give is: Put yourself out there! There are so many people who hide on their blog and wait for people to approach them but–!! That only leads to sad times and negative thoughts when no one comes to approach them so!!!
Keep an eye out for memes people reblog, and when you see one you can send in? Just go for it!! When someone makes a starter call, and should their rules permit you doing so, punch that like button in the face!!!
For real! Jump head first into the community, because I promise you, regardless of how ‘quality’ and ‘popular’ someone appears? They’re probably a huge goober and would be super excited to see someone new wanting to interact with their muse! The more involved you become with the community, the more fun it’ll be in the end, for you and the rest of us!
⚓ – Are there any small details you tend to like in roleplays?
✿; Oh gosh, I love love love when people set the scene. Like, I also adore the thought process behind muses? Because I write like that a lot myself– lots of thought processing and inner conflict that goes through my muse’s mind, but!! When people describe the scene to me and it all flows super nicely to boot? I just fall head over heels for that sort of thing.
Because it’s great and super important to know how a character thinks, but it’s also wonderful to know just where exactly they are and whats going on around them~
Something I’ve noticed in the RP community is that we expect our RP partners to be writing machines. We expect them to churn out a reply almost immediately after we post ours, be on when we are, always send us memes, et cetera. Here’s the thing: our RP partners are not machines. They are human beings who need to be respected for more than their ability to write. Other than the usual “your RP partners may not feel like replying at the moment,” here are some things to respect them for, and remember when you’re RPing:
Respect that your RP partner may be in school.
Respect that your RP partner may be employed.
Respect that your RP partner may have at least one physical illness.
Respect that your RP partner may have at least one mental illness.
Respect that your RP partner may have friends outside of tumblr.
Respect that your RP partner may have a family outside of tumblr.
Respect that your RP partner may be a parent.
Respect that your RP partner may have hobbies outside of tumblr.
Respect that your RP partner may have religious obligations.
Respect that your RP partner may not always have internet, or computer access.
Respect that your RP partner may be going through a difficult life situation.
Respect that your RP partner does not have to disclose everything happening in their personal life to you.
Too often, it’s easy to say “no one RPs with me” or “no one ships with me” or “no one sends me anything” without considering any of the above, or even more circumstances your RP partner(s) may be dealing with. Too often, it’s easy to say one of those things, and not consider how the other person feels when reading it. Someone dealing with at least one of these circumstances can feel guilty for not replying right away, sending something, et cetera, or feel like they have to once they see their partner is unhappy.
I know I do when I see things like that on my dash.
When you start feeling guilty for not doing something that is part of your hobby, or feeling like you have to do something that is supposed to be fun, it stops being fun. It feels like a job. I know when I feel obligated to do a reply for a person, I drag my feet. I do not feel excited about the RP as much anymore. Even if they say, “Sure, I’ll wait,” I see them post elsewhere that no one sends them things, or no one RPs with them. The guilt turns on. I feel like I have to reply. It’s a passive-aggressive tactic that a person may not even be aware that they’re doing. No matter what, though, it needs to stop.
All in all, we need to show more kindness and patience towards our RP partners. The best relationships I have on this website are the ones where we treat each other with not only that, but with mutual respect. We also communicate regularly, and tell each other if we need to hold onto replies. I feel relieved knowing I can go to my RP partners, and tell them to hold onto my replies because I’m not feeling well, and I don’t know when I will be. It is an amazing feeling. We need more of that on this website, and less expecting one another to be robots.
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