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Don’t Be Selfish — Your RP Partner Is Not An Object

ask-grigori-rasputin:

fuckyeahroleplayadvice:

Looking through past posts concerning social problems between partners or groups of roleplayers, the issue of possessiveness and the clinging to partners arises which can create rifts between partners and the entirety of the group.

It’s important to understand that your partner is not an object, they are another human being, just like you. 

I say this because it is rude to be possessive of a partner.

How is someone being possessive of a roleplay partner?

  • They get extremely jealous of their partner roleplaying with other, and get upset with their partner for doing so.
  • They yell at/become upset at the other party roleplaying with their partner and tell them not to do so.
  • They tell their partner that if they roleplay with someone else that they will no longer roleplay with them.
  • They attempt to guilt trip their partner into roleplaying with them only by claiming things such as, ‘Am I not good enough?’  ‘Why do you have to roleplay with others? Do I suck that bad?’
  • They will tell others that their partner is ‘theirs’. Ex. “You can’t roleplay with Alex…He’s mine!”
  • They show their possessiveness by causing their character to be extremely clingy to their partner’s character.

It’s important to understand that your roleplay partner is allowed to roleplay with anyone else, and that includes roleplaying with people that are not you. They have that right.
It is not an attack on your roleplaying abilities.
It is not an attack on you as a person.
It is not an attack on their ideal of you as a partner.

Your roleplay partner is allowed to branch out to however many partners they so feel like it, and it is not your place to say that they cannot have any partners outside of you. That’s just rude.

This also includes telling your partner that their character cannot be in any other romantic relationship except with your character. That’s rude.

If your partner has a Multiple Storyline Character, these parallel universes allow your partners character to be in as many relationships as they so choose without them relating in anyway, coinciding in anyway, etc. 

Be considerate of your partner and how THEY feel about it. No one likes being guilt tripped. No one likes being yelled at for a hobby that is supposed to be FUN, not stressing. No one likes to be restricted in such a hobby.

It is not your place to tell someone what they can and cannot do in terms of interacting with others. It’s incredibly mean of you to do such a thing and you need to take a step back and see how you could be hurting someone else’s feelings if you realize that you are doing this to someone else.

Don’t be possessive of a roleplay partner. They are not an object. They are allowed to make any decision they want when it comes to roleplay, and you don’t have a say in how many partners they’re allowed to have.

Because in the end, no one is obligated to roleplay with you, and for you to put restrictions on someone who is willingly choosing to roleplay with you is just seriously unkind.

So, don’t do that.

I sadly have problems a lot with that first one. I get jealous when i see people writing to others then they just forget about me for months or all together like “Um okay” and then i want to smack myself for thinking that way.

fallcnandlost:

alexandra-millss:

I don’t know if I’ve ever said this on here guys, but 

I AM SO FUCKING GAME FOR USING THE SAME PLOT WITH MULTIPLE PARTNERS. 

someone messaged me this morning after I sent them a message late last night about a plot on their wishlist, saying that we couldn’t play it out because “somebody messaged me about it first”. I find that VERY rude, just because there are SO MANY WAYS you can go about a plot!! It doesn’t matter if you have the same plot with two people or twenty people BECAUSE there are so many angles you can play it at!! 

So I just thought I’d throw this out there, that if you see a plot on my wishlist FUCKIN MESSAGE ME. I literally do not care if I’m playing out the same plot with one person or ten people. Throw the fuckin plot at me guys. I want that plot from different angles. I do not care how many people I’m doing it with. THROW IT AT ME. 

this has been a psa. 

majorasmaskask:

happymaskseller:

((Random PSA: Let it be known that even if the mun might occasionally choose to roleplay with more than one person using the same muse, it will be due to things like alternate scenarios and other stuff going on. It will NEVER be an indicator of someone’s worth as an rp partner or that the mun finds anyone to be not enough, boring or disposable. EVERYONE is highly valuable to the mun and such a thing won’t happen often anyway.))

((This is the same for me))